We have to remain in touch with our emotions. To be able to cry is a gift. To be incapable of feeling and receiving emotion or expressing and giving emotion is an injury, a sign of trauma, a mental disorder, or even a curse.
To be overly emotional is similar. When emotions disrupt and disorganize the awareness of the environment, of others and priorities, and self-awareness. When behavior is disrupted into unstable patterns and motives that are detached from an emotionally and mentally vibrant and present way of viewing the self and reality, that is as much as a curse however they are expressed differently.
Alan Watts on the Involuntary and Voluntary Self:
It is contrast that defines experience. When of the self, it is the contrast of the other self that defines our position in relationships. When of the aspect of our own self-image, it is that which we less readily accept that defines what we hold to as our definition of identity and thus enjoyment and pleasure. This is identity and ability to enjoy is a measure of our relationship with our self and our relationship with our self’s relationship to the world.
If one fully embraces that which is in contrast to the self we voluntarily accept and acknowledge, then we can achieve a simultaneous increase in the self that is voluntary and controlled by choice.
They are both two sides of the same coin, one will not change without changing the other, yet you can’t get rid of either.
When this is embraced, it is like working backwards from the surface appearance of things. The lever for increasing experience is by acknowledging and controlling our reaction or response to what we don’t want to experience. Our capacity for adaptation to difficult situations counterbalances our ability for authentic enjoyment. Our capacity for enjoyment is benefited by our capacity to let go of enjoyment.
All things that appear to be two opposites are really one self-referencing idea.
This contrast derived, backwards, pro-jected, opposite, half-brained way of seeing is what humanity has developed as a surreptitious, serendipitous, and self-reflecting way of being through what we call “consciousness”.
Thanks to the support of the women who have been leaving comments. I absolutely appreciate the brothers, but the sisters who help add that extra bit of compassion throughout all of this really help to bring one back to ground level making it that much safer and effective to access the heights of the immaterial realms.
I’ll conclude this message of appreciation with a transcendent outpouring of Alan Watts regarding the real you. You are the Universe, in the same way a wave is the ocean. Thank you.
Is it more difficult to control your state of emotions or your mentality and mental expressions? What if one who feels overwhelmed by their emotions can use their rational mind to restore equilibrium and one who is constantly pushed by their rational mind can restore balance by expressing their emotions? Then everything is constantly in a balance depending on how the individual discerns between the guiding force behind the each state of being either emotional or mental. Are there any other states of being?